Category: Rants


Sometimes drinking yourself under a table is not the best way to get a date (Note: This is not me I am in better shape)

Me at Geoff's wedding reception with his sister Janice

If your like me, insert 20 somethingish trying to figure out your place in the world either climbing the corporate ladder or experimenting with different options, then you probably have noticed what I have noticed lately. Just take a look at your Facebook feed, I am not going crazy but it seem everyone I know is getting into relationships, engaged or already married.

With 2 weddings already this year (thanks Lindsey and Tolga, Julie and Geoff) and some more invites in the pipeline, you start to wonder if your single, how on earth are you going to meet someone that you don’t already know?

Well how do most people meet? According to a study by Match.com an online dating website based in the US suggest the following:

1) Through work/school                    36%

2) Through friend/family member      26%

3) Via Online Dating site                   17%

4) Through bars/clubs/social events   11%

5) Other                                           7%

6) Through church/places of worship    4%

What surprises me about all this is how high online dating is and it does not surprise me that it beats bars/clubs though. Let’s be honest the intentions you have under alcohol or when out partying is not necessarily the best side of a persons character if any indication of their character at all.

So what happens when there are no options through work (ie. all your coworkers are twice your age and married) and you are finished school? There is always your friends and family right? Family get togethers are usually well family unless someone brings a date, and well that would not go over well taking their date would it? Or what if you live in another country? Or be honest when you do go out it is usually with the same group of people because you are so busy living your own lives anyways, and the time is spent catching up. Lastly, I am against online dating although I know of some success stories, to me it seems unnatural and I could imagine discouraging as most people on it are because they are lonely and tired of trying or waiting for it to “happen”.

With all that said, NO ONE SAID IT WOULD BE EASY!! If it was I probably should at this point be able to keep a relationship more than 9 months (which if your wondering why you should even take advice from a guy like me, I will leave it to your judgement, but know I am friends with all my ex’s and 90% of them are in happy relationships, call me good luck mac 😉 ). There are millions of books out there, recently a few more for men (ie. THE GAME, MYSTERY METHOD), even a reality TV shows teaching men how to pickup women. However, the problem with these books for most guys, is well they take it literally, making it a game to “neg” girls, etc. and mostly revolve around picking up girls at a bar. Don’t get me wrong, you have to start somewhere with a complete stranger you don’t know, but beyond that initial attraction stage, surprise surprise you yourself have to carry the relationship, not gambits &games.

So with all that ranting done, here is my take on dating and what you came for…

TOP 5 WAYS TO FIND YOURSELF A DATE

1. Be Interesting
What does that even mean??? Maybe it’s doing magic tricks, or knowing every line to Anchorman? What is interesting for one person can be boring for another. What I mean by interesting is be passionate about something. Think about it, you know those people, when they talk to you their eyes light up, they have skip to their step, they are wait for it… HAPPY. The times in life when you meet people are the times when you are complete, when you are feeling fufiled chasing your dreams/hopes. Just reading a book right now called The Way of the Superior Man, but one thing that really stuck out for me was the idea that by not pursuing your own inner dreams, passions, you will not feel complete, hence you will be cheating a partner out of a truly complete relationship. So start with figuring out how to be truly happy, and if your not, you need to start looking inside to figure out who YOU really are, character, dreams, passions, before you can expect anyone else to start to discover it.

2. Get out there.

If you ever get a chance pick up a book called the last lecture or at least watch the YouTube video. If you are not familiar with it, last lectures are done at some universities where professors teach if it was their last lecture what they would want to leave behind, in this case it is literally a last lecture as a professor at Carnegie Mellon named Randy Pausch is diagnosed with terminal cancer. 

The reason I bring this up is, it is about getting out there! There is no point having dreams and goals if your not moving towards them, you might not get exactly the goal, but along the way you will not only find more fulfillment in your own life, but help others achieve their own goals and dreams. It is a tale old as time but I still think it is important today, in life and relationships, it is not what you say, it is what you do that counts and matters.

3. Meet NEW PEOPLE

Amazing concept, but sitting at home playing World of Warcraft will not drop the person of your dreams into your lap, that or Facebook stalking people. Go out, chase those dreams, have fun, try new things, along the way you put yourself in situations to meet new people. Make it a goal, don’t just go to a vorspeil (preparty in norwegian) and hangout with the people you already know, mingle, mix, because you never know where things will lead.

One episode from How I met your mother, really hits it home, you want it to happen so badly, you keep waiting for it to happen, but really you need to focus on you and enjoying your life, because that person is on their way as fast as they can.

http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/4wG4xdU4JFw/

4. Take a chance
“He who hesitates masturbates” – How to Make it in America quote pretty much sums up that point. If I never asked the cute Swedish girl at the coffee shop to hangout I would have never had an amazing relationship taking me across 3 different countries, life’s biggest regrets are the things you never do. Think it’s from Michael Jordan, but goes along the lines of you will miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

5. Have fun

I guess the Top 5 can really summed up into 1, HAVE FUN!! Have fun with life, focus on you, enjoying the moments with friends and family, the rest will really follow 🙂 So smile, laugh, be happy, and the occasional time drink yourself literally under a table, because that guy didn’t end up alone that night lol.

Why not international?

Enjoy the view from the Swiss Alps?

Enjoy the view from the Swiss Alps?

Ever thought about working abroad, like really working towards a career not just bartending in the beaches in oz which no doubt would be fun (insert queenslands best job in the world campaign – amazing case of how media has gone social and global. I prepared for a presentation at AIESEC BI about going abroad, I am asking myself what should I focus on and talk about. No matter how I slice it, I keep migrating over and over to the same idea, opportunity. So first how are some ways you can go abroad and here are my 5 top reasons why you should.

Traditional Opportunities for International Experience

  • Semester Exchange
  • Climb the corporate ladder and get international placement
  • Travel / Vacation
  • Find a job overseas (not so easy to do)
Work can take you interesting places

Work can take you interesting places

Why going International gives you the “Opportunity” to have a great story!

1) doesn’t make your cv better, it makes you interesting.

For those new to the working world your cv just gets you in the front door with an interview. When looking at a pile of resumes all ms word templates (which by the way is no way to standout) what makes you interesting? All new grads have a degree but how many can saw they worked for an investment firm in the Ukraine like my friend chris. Interviewers are always asking tell me about the experience, why, how, etc because they are ppl too and everyone likes a good story 🙂

2) Leadership comes from building/revealing character –> Self Discovery
One of the most quintessential thing in developing leadership and achieving goals is knowing who you are. One thing every AIESEC intern will tell you is how much they learn about themself during the experience. Here you are in a new place no saftey net and you are pushed to grow. You discover more about your values, goals, hopes, cause that’s what a new place will do for you as you search to find people that share similar goals. Push your comfort zone.

3) Develop new skill sets

Going abroad creates a vast amount of cultural skill development opportunities, let it be learning a new language, discovering new cultural norms, or how to work in a variety of foreign markets. At my position at Mobile Nordic on any given day I am running campaigns in Germany, Finland, Denmark, Sweden, and Norway which all present their own unique set of challenges.

4) Expanding the empire aka. growing your network internationally.

With emerging technology that really closes the geographic distance (skype with my mom every few weeks 😀 ) there is a lot of benefit in working abroad.

Not only do you grow your personal networks with new friends but your professional network grows as well. Additionally, going through organizations such as AIESEC offer even more opportunities for international network building, friends of mine are in Belgium, Netherlands, China, Malta, etc. all pursuing interesting work opportunities. Who knows maybe they need some more marketing people in a surfing town in Portugal?

5) SEE THE WORLD!

Welcome to Oslo!

This particularly is one of my favourite aspects of working abroad. You aren’t just a tourist but you become part of the everyday chorus of life in a new country discovering what it truly means to be a local. Backpacking is a lot of fun and highly reccomended as I went on a journey last year, but it’s different to live somewhere else. Also the nice bonus to working abroad is you can spend your weekends discovering more places in your country, or neighbouring countries as well, always keeping things interesting. A quote I am stealing from a friends facebook profile, but “The world is like a book, not travelling is like only reading the first page” and my own speiel on travelling “Travel to explore, not to escape!” as in travel to see, hear, and make new stories, don’t just do it to escape for your everyday, life is to short to hate what your doing everyday.

So GET OUT there and find opportunities to work abroad, I highly recommend AIESEC as a lot of the positions are worthwhile career building experience. 6 months ago I didn’t think I would be in Oslo, and especially didn’t think I would be picking up my 3 year work permit last week as the company has offered me full-time along with potential for stock options. So WHY NOT?? Honestly what is the worst that can happen? You can just go back home 🙂 or the upside is you may just find a new wealth of opportunities you never could of imagined.

Any help or suggestions in looking for work abroad don’t hesitate to ask!

Iphone is amazing

Oh man I am using the iPhone and the applications are amazing. I can now actually write to this blog regularly! Apple you are amazing.

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